It’s been over a year since I moved to Costa Mesa. I just really wanted to express my gratitude for you, getting me into Treatment here- it seriously saved my life.
I have an awesome job, working at Bill’s Lawn and Garden (!) in Corona del Mar, as assistant to the general manager. If you had told me a year ago this would happen, I wouldn’t have believed it. God is doing for me what I could not do for myself. And I’ve moved out of sober living and have a few close friends in the program that love me unconditionally.
Thanks again. For all your advice and help, even if I didn’t take it at the time . Damn alkies, we’re a stubborn bunch!
And to quote one of my favorite poem lines (Rumi)
Let the beauty we love be what we do.
There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground.
Bryan, I want to thank you for the wonderful way you handled our family and the intervention. I know that we couldn’t have had the success we had without you. And I was incredibly impressed with the manner in which you talked to the triplets. You were so loving and kind with them and you explained things so well to them about their mother. It was so important since they were terrified by the whole situation. I will always be grateful for your help.
Hi Bryan, our Son called Sunday we talked about his job and how he was doing, he sounded good, he said things were going well, it was the first time in a long time we just talked, he never said a thing about the car, I just wanted to give him a big hug, we can start to see are son coming back, that was a good feeling to me, thank you for helping me keep my family tougher
Dear Treatment Program (name omitted),
I wanted to express my thoughts about Bryan Bowen. During the initial stages of my brother Tom’s intervention, your current guest as of yesterday, our family was referred to your facility by an out patient program in San Fran. I personally called Duffy’s and spoke with Sarah and ask for a referral to an intervention therapist, Bryan being one of two provided. It is important for you both to know what impact your referral of Bryan had on our family and myself.
Our family did not know what the term intervention was until my wife Heather suggested it. Our brother Tom had just been admitted to the hospital because his body was failing under his addiction. The bottom was reached. Medically, the hospital stabilized him and released him to my sister, a nurse, my mother and Tom’s family. The watch began and Tom did not drink for a week. But without an intervention, Tom would still be drinking, as I discovered in a voice mail on Saturday.
We hired Bryan and he championed the cause to completion. I was the initial family contact person with Bryan and he was professional from the start. I did not know Bryan, other than through his website. I had no context, background or anything- just Duffy’s referral. Now in hindsight, everything is crystal clear. Thank you for selecting Bryan for your referral list. He has the passion, the depth, the anguish, the experiences of 400+ people, the sadness, the hope, the inspiration and the tenacity to convince a person who knows not what they do and causes them to voluntarily enter rehab. As I warned Bryan in the beginning, my brother Tom is a difficult person. He is a “former” attorney, angry, insecure, reclusive, irrational etc. Bryan methodically initiated a process, counseled our very large family through numerous conference calls and emails preparing us and Tom’s family, including his 15 year old daughter, about what was to occur. He held the intervention and did not stumble, lose focus, nor lose control to Tom and his “ways”. The intervention was brutal in so many respects, from the utter uncaring stoic presence Tom exhibited (addiction) to the agony and despair pleaded by his young daughter Alex to Tom’s heartlessness reaction to her love. Tom did not agree to go after the intervention, even though his entire family had read their third and final statements to Tom. Tom was the 20% of those people who stubbornly refuse to go to rehab after an intervention. There was Bryan through it all, unwavering. I believe even Bryan could not help but be personally impacted by this intervention. Bryan has been given the gift of grace- to help others. He carries a special energy to move mountains. Bryan clearly went beyond his agreement with the family, volunteering his personal time without complaint. His door was always open, which was difficult given nearly the entire family was in two other time zones. If Bryan is the person we now know him to be and Duffy’s referred him to us, then we know what Duffy’s is all about. I have never met Bryan in person, just over the telephone, text and email. That’s a powerful advocate! Thank you!!
“Finally I have found a person to work with where I don’t feel judged and
I am looking at things I never was able to before.”
By working with Bryan our Family learned recovery is a process of change. Throughout the length of Addiction Care Management, we were guided towards recovery from out own co-addiction and Bryan helped us establish healthy boundaries with our son and we now have productive relationships with one another and our Son has one year clean. We never thought that possible and it was all because of Bryan Bowen’s guidance and honest help.
Thank you for the work you’ve done over the past 18 months for our family as we’ve navigated the difficult terrain of alcoholism and treatment.
I especially appreciate the gentle but effective approach you’ve taken in helping us make the transition from focusing on my sister’s disease to our own recovery as a family. We hired you originally to help us with the complex decisions around treatment programs, the right facilities, costs and aftercare options – all of which you handled with urgency, professionalism and expertise that we could not possibly have had on our own.
We did not initially realize how important and difficult it would be for the family to break the pattern of co-dependency. Having you take on the traditional family roles of monitoring, negotiating financial support and handling relapse details, gave us and my sister an opportunity for some peace of mind and healing.
Your dedication to recovery issues, personal experience with AA and genuine empathy and caring attitude are a credit to your profession. I especially appreciate the concern you’ve shown for my sister and our family even after your contract ended and we needed help in a crisis.
I would (and have) highly recommend your services to other families in similar situations.